Friday, October 9, 2015

Happy Anniversary...Advice after 13 Years

Tonight we celebrated 13 years of marriage.  I have to say that, for the most part, I've had an easy marriage. A lot of people will tell you, "Marriage is hard work." And I just didn't see it. It just wasn't like that. Now, don't let me fool you, we faced challenges and we faced many challenges...but looking back, I have today that was pretty easy to do with Daddy Bun.  We have a unique marriage in that we always seem to counter balance the other. If I'm having a bad day, he's having an amazing day and telling me to lighten up. If he's down in the dumps, that's the day I'm telling him how amazing we have it. We just have a knack for that. 
But lately it has been hard. It's been a real test of our faith and our marriage. It's taken a beating.  And I can tell you that yes, sometimes marriage is hard. Sometimes it is the hardest relationship you will ever share. Sometimes you wonder, why are we even doing this?  Other times you just look up and thank God that this person has chosen to stay with you. 

Marriage is not always easy. You may go three years without an obstacle, you might go ten years, you might be the blessed few who have little to no obstacles along the way. But remember this, you made a when it's hard, you think back to that day, the day you stood across from them and vowed to love them through the good and the bad. You remember that no, not every day will be sunshine and rainbows. But this person stood across from you and was willing to make the same vow. 

Always fight for that, for the vows you made.  No matter the obstacle.  That's my marriage advice to you.  Never, ever, let anything separate you from your marriage.