Wednesday, June 29, 2016

Our Pregnancy Journey - Weeks 1-7

Well y'all, here we are, PREGNANT with our little bun!  Yesterday was our first sonogram and I was literally SPEECHLESS.  Y'all have no idea what it takes to shut me up but I guess it's a live human being in my belly that will do it!  The baby is measuring a few days ahead of me at 8 weeks, 2 days.  We were able to see it's little heart fluttering away but Dr. Mark said NO VIDEOS...I love Dr. Mark but for the first time I wanted to smack him....but since he did have a wand in my lady bits I thought it was better to just lay there in awe of the tiny life growing inside of me.  The heartbeat measured at 163bpm so it's perfect so far.

Here is the sonogram of little bun.  You can see it's giant head (going to be smart like mom) and it's little nubs which will become arms and legs in the coming weeks.  It was just sort of fluttering there in my tummy with the heart just flashing like "I AM HERE!!  LOOK AT ME!!"


It's a little strange that I'm almost 8 weeks pregnant this week....I mean, our transfer was May 25.  Yet somehow the pregnancy people started counting my weeks wayyyyy back on May 1, which was actually cycle day 1 for the month.  So there I was... "pregnant" but not pregnant.  The way this pregnancy counting thing works is a little strange for someone who knows exactly when our five day embryo was implanted in my womb.  I've been pregnant about four weeks...but they gifted me three weeks just for participating.

The first seven weeks have been pretty easy.  Aside from 24/7 indigestion and the urge to nap every hour, I'm doing really well.  My cravings are pretty normal, I have noticed an increase in salty food desires and a decrease in my love for sweets.  That is a little strange since I used to drool over cookies and pies...a pie used to make me swoon but I'd rather it be Shepherd's Pie these days.  But I'm not going to lie, I would like to eat or drink something and not get indigestion...just so I can remember what it's like.

I picked out my OB here in town, and he's an amazing doctor who's office is LITS 3 miles from home.  It's going to be a nice change from the 1.5 hour trek I make to see Dr. Mark.  Speaking of Dr. Mark, he gave me a big hug and told me I graduated from Fertility CARE.  It was a little awkward since I was still naked from the waist down but hey, we've seen it all down there...repeatedly.  I have two more weeks of bloodwork before I will officially end my journey there.  Oh my heck, I have got to get them a basket of goodies to say thank you!  I am thinking sperm shaped cookies because that's how I roll.  Must start the hunt for a baker to do that for me...

I haven't been doing official bump shots because I wanted to wait for the first sonogram to start.  I guess I'm using the first sonogram as the starting line for the pregnancy.  So this weekend will mark BUMPDATE #01 for Week 8.  I purchased a shirt to wear for every week so I could see how little bun is growing.

Currently, I look pregnant, but it's not from the baby...it's from the progesterone shots I get every night from Daddy Bun.  Speaking of those...I have an END DATE for my PIO shots and Estradiol patches and it's July 29.  Hubby is SO EXCITED to be done with those shots...I wince every time he sticks me with a needle.  He dreads giving me that shot, but hey, if it is what Dr. Mark says we need to do, we will take the shot!  

For now, we are pregnant, we are estatic, and we will have our first OB appointment on July 14.  Until then I'll be updating weekly bumpdates here on the blog and monthly bumpdates on my Instagram.  Thanks for following our journey to Little Bun!!

 Here's a little something I created for the nursery.  It's going to be aqua and gray and white with a nautical theme.  This gender neutral idea is something that Daddy Bun and I came up with together based off his love for fishing and my love for all things nautical.  So thankful we agreed on such a perfect theme for the nursery.


Wednesday, June 22, 2016

Meet Griffin from Fertility Bridge

Hey y'all I wanted to share a blog post today from Griffin Jones who runs Fertility Bridge.  Fertility WHAT?  Fertility Bridge people...Griffin is working to help IVF centers market their services to TTC Sisters like us.  I was more than willing to help Griffin out in his recent blog post called:


20 infertility bloggers all answered one questionLet's talk for a moment about choosing a fertility clinic.  It's not like choosing a lunch selection.  It's a time consuming and difficult process.  There are a lot of costs involved with infertility and choosing the right provider is so important.  What we don't want to do is pick one from the virtual phone book and find out thousands of dollars later that we chose wrong.  

That is where Griffin comes in.  He is working on "bridging the gap between fertility clinics and patients" by working with clinics to help them market their services to the 1 in 8 couples who suffer from infertility....hence the name of his blog...Fertility Bridge.

Griffin chose this topic to help give clinics an eye opening look at what patients DON'T LIKE about choosing a clinic!  Lack of information online, not enough choices in the area, unclear costs, and a myriad of other issues were shared in this informative post and hopefully our voices will help guide the future marketing techniques and available options for other TTC Sisters.

I would love if you took a moment to check out Griffin's post, LINK HERE to see if you can relate to some of these issues.  Did you have any annoying issues with choosing your clinic?  Did you find it difficult to choose just one?  Was it hard to find costs without spending an afternoon getting a sales pitch on how you should have your baby?  Were you turned off by a lack of compassion from the reception staff?  Tell me...how difficult was it to choose your fertility clinic?  Let's share some help for Griffin to keep this movement going...let's let our voices guide the clinics.  After all, it's our needs that keep these practices running.    

   

Tuesday, June 21, 2016

Living a BFP Life in a TTC World

Unlike Madonna who is a Material Girl in a Material World...I'm a BFP Girl in a TTC World.

I started an Instagram in October of 2015 to share our journey and I knew that meant the good, the bad and the ugly.  Since then I've gained over 2,500 followers who come to me for advice, for hope and for a laugh during this struggle.  I know what it feels like to see a pregnancy announcement.  I know how the happiness I felt for them was diminished by the sadness I felt for myself.  I know the pain of seeing someone else's sonogram while my womb remained empty.  I know the struggle and the fear of "what if this doesn't work, what happens when I'm the last one on the bench".

I know infertility.  I know what it feels like to watch your best friend go through the pregnancy you desire at the moment you put those desires on hold.  I know how it feels to smile while dying on the inside.  I know how infertility can tear you apart and turn you into a person you don't even recognize.  Infertility has the ability to consume your marriage and your life.  I know because I've been there.

I am currently six weeks pregnant following a successful first time frozen transfer using IVF.  I should be elated and jumping for joy.  I've been struggling with the desire to share my joy over the desire to protect those who are still struggling.  I look back at the girls, my friends, my tribe...still on this journey and I feel guilty.

Guilty that it worked the first time.

Guilty that we suffer primarily from MFI and they're struggling with PCOS, Endometriosis, low embryo quality, or not ovulating...or some other diagnosis in a long list of infertility causes or even worse...undiagnosed infertility...the "we can't figure out why you're not conceiving" answer.

Guilty that it worked for me and they're still waiting.

I have successfully navigated the waters of infertility.  Now I am navigating the waters of keeping this pregnancy viable and giving birth to a healthy baby.  And I fear turning to the one place where people turn to me for support...because I don't want to hurt someone else still on this road, someone still "on the bench".

I've seen this from both angles, the "this is my journey and I earned it" as well as the "I know how it felt to watch and I won't be that way" mentality and I still struggle with somewhere in-between.

Yes, I earned this and worked hard for it, but don't we all?  

I know how it felt to watch someone else go through it, but I don't want to downplay this pregnancy.

Where is the middle?  The safe road? 

I liken this to what Ellis Grey said in Grey's  Anatomy, "The carousel never stops turning.  You can't get off".  You see, this journey is a carousel for us all.  We all get on at different times, and we might jump from carousel to carousel, but it never stops.  We never get off.  Whether it's a carousel of infertility, or a carousel of pregnancy or a carousel of parenting...it never stops turning.


So the truth is, there is not a safe road.  We all, as individuals must make a choice for ourselves.

And today I'm choosing to share my pregnancy.

I've added a new page on the blog, I didn't originally plan to have called Our Pregnancy Journey.  I'll be tracking bump pics, how I'm feeling, and YES I might even complain about morning sickness or having swollen feet.

Speaking of that, sharing the negative sides of pregnancy that is, pregnancy is not an easy journey.  I've spent the past several days sleeping in a sitting up position because of indigestion.  I don't like sleeping sitting up.  I don't like waking up on the hour to the feelings of indigestion or nausea.  I might grumble about morning sickness or the fact my pants don't fit, or whatever I'm feeling at the time.  Those feelings, the negative sides of pregnancy, shouldn't be overlooked because I struggled with infertility.  They shouldn't be diminished because there are others trying to get pregnant.  This is a true journey, encompassing all the feelings around pregnancy.  Those feelings should be embraced as a part of this new journey.  So that means I'll be exploring them...and possibly even complaining about it.  

I want everyone to know that I am still here to help you get through the infertility carousel.  I am here to cheer you on, to raise you up, to lift your spirits, to send a prayer...I'm here for all of those things.  But if you cannot be here for me, if the pain is too much, if the journey is one you're not ready to follow, I understand.  We have to do what is best for each of us on this road.  We have to guard our hearts.  It's a part of life.  Some people come into our lives for a season.  Others for a lifetime.  Perhaps our season was infertility and that season has passed for us.  I don't want to hold anyone captive on my journey....on the next carousel.

Welcome to the next carousel.  Welcome to Our Pregnancy Journey.

Thursday, June 9, 2016

Our FET...What I Did, Didn't Do, and Why

Hey y'all...so by now you know that we are pregnant.  If you don't...see this post HERE for my first beta results.  I am still in shock about it and very cautious to post a sign in my office at work...but since my TTC journey has been on public record since we began medical treatments, it's only fair that you know the good, the bad and the ugly.  This, thankfully, is part of the GOOD!

This was NINE YEARS in the making.  It took a long time to get to this part, so if you're just starting on your journey, know that for some...it takes years.  Don't throw in the towel after a year or two or even three.  This is a marathon, not a sprint and for some, it's a double or triple marathon.  I don't want to discourage you, in fact, I want to encourage you...to be patient in this wait.  To find comfort in the fact that there are many women just like you who are struggling and waiting for the same blessing.  Use this time wisely, get to know your spouse, spend time with family.  Do not let infertility rule your life because it can take over!


This blog post is dedicated to my TTC Sisters, the ones I laugh with, cry with, support and hold dear to my heart.  I wanted to take a moment and note what we did this cycle.  I've had several questions about what we did and why we did it so I thought, hey, let's BLOG about it!

First of all, let's address the FET.  That's Frozen Embryo Transfer.  Why frozen?  Why not fresh?  Did we want to try fresh?  What made us decide to skip that option?

I went with my doctor on this (Mark Trolice at Fertility CARE).  I call him Dr. Mark.  Now, Dr. Mark has been in this game a long time and is double board certified in his field.  He has gone through infertility with his wife and they are the proud parents of an adopted daughter.  He is kind, he listens and he knows his business.  So when he suggested that we skip a fresh and go with frozen, I agreed.

You see, our lady bits are under heavy medication and surveillance during stims (that's the shots and patches and medications you take while forcing your ovaries to mass produce eggs).  This causes swelling, hormone imbalance, and even sometimes longer time to return to "normal".  Starting at "normal" for an embryo transfer is what Dr. Mark believes leads to a successful cycle.  For this reason, he recommends a frozen transfer.  Now I'm not saying he wouldn't have done a fresh cycle.  But we wanted the best case scenario for our embryo.  Somehow implanting an embryo in an area that that swollen and shot up with hormones didn't feel like the right time for us.  So, together with Dr. Mark, we decided a frozen transfer.  And for us, it was a good decision.  I can't say that it will work for you, or even say that it is BETTER than a fresh cycle.  I can only share what we did that produced a BFP in the end.  It's really up to you to decide what is best for your family.  But my non-medical, I didn't go to college for this, I only had a BFP opinion is....take a break, give your lady bits time to chill and get back to normal, and do a frozen transfer.

What did we do after embryo transfer?  Was it bed rest or back to work?  Why?

The jury is ALL OVER THE BOARD on this one so again, I went with what Dr. Mark ordered which was back to work.  The day of transfer I was given a Valium, so let's just say things were a bit of a blur and I spent the rest of the day and night post-transfer in bed asleep, even snoring according to the man behind the sample, Daddy Bun.  SUREEEE, where is the video of this alleged snoring hmm??  There is no video?  Well then IT DIDN'T HAPPEN!!

But the next day it was back to work for me.  Here's the thought process behind that decision.  First of all, I work in an office so my job isn't filled with a lot of heavy lifting.  Post transfer you want to be sure there is blood flowing down to the lady bits and the best way to do that is to MOVE AROUND.  Now, I know there are doctors out there who demand bed rest, so I asked about this and the advice to me was to resume normal activities as soon as possible.  Dr. Mark, in his infinite baby creating wisdom, agreed that the best thing to keep blood flowing through your body is to keep moving.  He also added that most pregnant women don't undergo special bed rest restrictions and still become pregnant...I agreed.  This put the decision to rest for us.

Did I do the Pomegranate Juice and Pineapple Core?  Warm socks?  Lukewarm drinks?  What was the post-transfer routine for the TWW? 

This is still hotly debated.  There are women who do these things and get pregnant.  There are women who do these things and don't get pregnant.  To me, that says it's more about the woman, not the rituals the woman completes.  I bought Pom juice and pineapple with the full intent of following the rituals for the simple fact that these things do not hurt your chances to conceive.  Do they help?  I can't say for sure.  There just isn't any medical statistic that shows it works.  Did I do them for five days?  No, I did them for three days.  I don't like Pom juice so it was difficult to choke that down.  I love pineapple but we went to the grocery store and my pineapple was pushed to the back of the fridge and sometimes for this girl, out of sight...out of mind.

I didn't follow the warm socks routine but a few days that my feet were actually cold.  You see I'm in central Florida and cold...well it just doesn't happen much here.  So if my feet felt cold, I put on my fuzzy slippers.  If not, I didn't bother.

How about the lukewarm drinks?  What is the deal with that?  You see, they say an embryo wants to be warm and cozy and if you're drinking cold drinks the blood rushes to your stomach instead of your uterus...and where does Dr. Mark want the blood flowing?  To your lady bits!  I followed this strictly during all three failed IUI's.  For this transfer, I drank what I wanted at whatever temperature I wanted.  Now, for my water, I don't really care for ice cold water.  So I didn't mind pouring my Brita water into a cup with no ice and we keep that on the counter.  But the Pom juice I drank for a few days, that was cold.  The drinks in a restaurant at lunch, they were cold.

What didn't I do post transfer?  

I didn't swim in the pool and y'all...it was HOT!!  I didn't take a bath (but I did shower, don't worry I didn't run around all stinky).  I didn't go out on our boat due to rough waters and a bumpy ride.  I skipped the sweets and the high carb foods.  I didn't do any heavy lifting and I limited what I did carry to about ten pounds.  I skipped all alcohol and drugs (whatttt, no drugs?? Yes y'all, just say no).  Oh and I stayed off the trampoline...OK fine I don't even have a trampoline.  But they say things can causes the embryo to detach from your lady bits and I didn't want that so it was no rough housing or wresting with the nieces and nephews for this girl.

Did I pee on a stick?  Why?  Why not?  How to avoid it?

No, I didn't pee on a stick.  The reason is I wanted to enjoy the PUPO (Pregnant Until Proven Otherwise) status.  They say it takes up to 7 days post transfer for a pregnancy to show up, now if you're peeing on a stick on day 4, 5, and 6 and it's negative, what is going to happen?  You're going to be upset, you're going to think it didn't work, you're going to psyche yourself out of your pregnancy.  I didn't want to feel that way.  So I waited until just before our beta to test and I used a fancy digital test.  How do you avoid it?  DO NOT GO TO THE STORE.  Seriously, the temptation is too great for me so I have to avoid the stores that sell the tests.  Otherwise I'll buy them.  Sure, it was tempting and I wanted to know, but I also didn't want to know so I just went with the safe routine and drove past the store!!

When did we do the beta?        

A beta is a blood test to determine if you're pregnant.  Let me share some quick beta facts before moving on.

HCG is human chorionic gonadotropin which is not fun to say so we call it HCG. It's the hormone we want to see in a pregnancy test.  These levels generally double every 48-72 hours.  Most pregnancies double within 72 hours which is why some doctors wait three days to perform a second beta.  A "normal" HCG is very difficult to determine so they have come up with an average that you can follow.  A lower beta at the beginning can still produce a health baby!  That is an important fact.    

Different clinics perform beta testing on different days.  This is why you see a vast difference in beta numbers.  It is important to consider the number of days past transfer that a beta is completed before you compare your beta to an average or to some number you see on a social media site.  A lot of people thought my beta was extremely high, when it was really just an average number.  That is based on the days past transfer (DPT)

Now, my first beta was completed at 13 days past 5 day transfer (typically seen as 13dp5dt).  We transferred a 5 day embryo.  This makes my beta numbers showing at 18dp5dt.  So I was beta tested at 18dp5dt.  Here is a chart I used to check my HCG levels against the average.  I highlighted my date of beta.  My first beta was 556.  This is right on point with 18dp5dt.


LINK TO WEBSITE!  http://www.advancedfertility.com/earlypre.htm 

So lets do some math!  Oh yay, a math lesson from No Bun!  If you transferred a 5 day embryo and tested on day 9, you're looking for the lowest number on this chart which is 14.  Your beta should be between 17 and 119 with an average of about 48.  Now, imagine you're comparing that to mine...but we tested on different days...you see how this can look?  Yea, you don't want to compare betas unless you know exactly when the transfer was completed and what day they tested.

THIS IS IMPORTANT!  Beta numbers are compared all the time between TTC Sisters and I cannot emphasize enough how important it is to check the days before you go comparing side by side notes with your friend!

When will I change my name from "nobunintheoven" and what will it be?

HA!  This was a popular question and comment on my Instagram account.  I am currently "nobunintheoven".  I started my Instagram in October of last year and everyone knows me as "nobun".  Part of me wants to change my name, but part of me ties that to my identity.  It's who I am...it's what I'm known as.  I can't say for sure that I will or won't change my Instagram name.  For now, I'll remain "nobun" and if I decide to change that, I will surely make it known!

What will it be?  I've toyed with a few names, lilbunintheoven, mammasgotabunintheoven, mrsbunintheoven, ladybunintheoven, bunintheoven and even mammabun.  I just don't know, the possibilities can be endless when you build your name around an oven!  dontovercookthebunintheoven seems a bit long tho...so I won't do that one!

EDITED TO ADD....SYMPTOMS!!!  What about symptoms while waiting for beta?  

Oh my heck, thanks the gorgeous Ari who reminded me I missed the all important symptoms during the TWW!  I really only had ONE SYMPTOM which was sore bewbies.  Y'all they hurt all over.  Now I've experienced soreness before my cycle began but this was different.  This was soreness all around, not just the sides like my usual cycle.  This was not soreness from grabbing them to check if they were sore (yes we are ALL guilty of this).  This was...it hurt to sit in a bra, I needed bra extenders kind of sore.  This was different than all my prior IUI's.  And this was really the only symptom that I've noticed even to this day *currently week 5*

So I'm certainly not discounting the people who have a vast array of symptoms during the TWW...it just didn't happen for me.  So keep in mind, a symptom, or lack of symptoms is not a good indicator of whether it worked!  Thanks again Ari for the reminder!

Do you have a question about my transfer that I didn't cover?  Do you know someone who could benefit from this information?  SHARE it on Pinterest or Facebook or just email the link to someone you know!  I think this is important information to share!  Thanks so much for following along on my journey.  I'll be adding a new Page to this blog called Our Pregnancy Journey.  I'll be documenting our progress, how it goes and photos.  As always, I'll be on Instagram to share a kind word or a funny photo of the journey along the way.

Thanks for reading, thanks for putting up with me and thanks for being a part of our journey to baby bun!

Our FET...What I Did, Didn't Do, and Why

Hey y'all...so by now you know that we are pregnant.  If you don't...see this post HERE for my first beta results.  I am still in shock about it and very cautious to post a sign in my office at work...but since my TTC journey has been on public record since we began medical treatments, it's only fair that you know the good, the bad and the ugly.  This, thankfully, is part of the GOOD!

This was NINE YEARS in the making.  It took a long time to get to this part, so if you're just starting on your journey, know that for some...it takes years.  Don't throw in the towel after a year or two or even three.  This is a marathon, not a sprint and for some, it's a double or triple marathon.  I don't want to discourage you, in fact, I want to encourage you...to be patient in this wait.  To find comfort in the fact that there are many women just like you who are struggling and waiting for the same blessing.  Use this time wisely, get to know your spouse, spend time with family.  Do not let infertility rule your life because it can take over!


This blog post is dedicated to my TTC Sisters, the ones I laugh with, cry with, support and hold dear to my heart.  I wanted to take a moment and note what we did this cycle.  I've had several questions about what we did and why we did it so I thought, hey, let's BLOG about it!

First of all, let's address the FET.  That's Frozen Embryo Transfer.  Why frozen?  Why not fresh?  Did we want to try fresh?  What made us decide to skip that option?

I went with my doctor on this (Mark Trolice at Fertility CARE).  I call him Dr. Mark.  Now, Dr. Mark has been in this game a long time and is double board certified in his field.  He has gone through infertility with his wife and they are the proud parents of an adopted daughter.  He is kind, he listens and he knows his business.  So when he suggested that we skip a fresh and go with frozen, I agreed.

You see, our lady bits are under heavy medication and surveillance during stims (that's the shots and patches and medications you take while forcing your ovaries to mass produce eggs).  This causes swelling, hormone imbalance, and even sometimes longer time to return to "normal".  Starting at "normal" for an embryo transfer is what Dr. Mark believes leads to a successful cycle.  For this reason, he recommends a frozen transfer.  Now I'm not saying he wouldn't have done a fresh cycle.  But we wanted the best case scenario for our embryo.  Somehow implanting an embryo in an area that that swollen and shot up with hormones didn't feel like the right time for us.  So, together with Dr. Mark, we decided a frozen transfer.  And for us, it was a good decision.  I can't say that it will work for you, or even say that it is BETTER than a fresh cycle.  I can only share what we did that produced a BFP in the end.  It's really up to you to decide what is best for your family.  But my non-medical, I didn't go to college for this, I only had a BFP opinion is....take a break, give your lady bits time to chill and get back to normal, and do a frozen transfer.

What did we do after embryo transfer?  Was it bed rest or back to work?  Why?

The jury is ALL OVER THE BOARD on this one so again, I went with what Dr. Mark ordered which was back to work.  The day of transfer I was given a Valium, so let's just say things were a bit of a blur and I spent the rest of the day and night post-transfer in bed asleep, even snoring according to the man behind the sample, Daddy Bun.  SUREEEE, where is the video of this alleged snoring hmm??  There is no video?  Well then IT DIDN'T HAPPEN!!

But the next day it was back to work for me.  Here's the thought process behind that decision.  First of all, I work in an office so my job isn't filled with a lot of heavy lifting.  Post transfer you want to be sure there is blood flowing down to the lady bits and the best way to do that is to MOVE AROUND.  Now, I know there are doctors out there who demand bed rest, so I asked about this and the advice to me was to resume normal activities as soon as possible.  Dr. Mark, in his infinite baby creating wisdom, agreed that the best thing to keep blood flowing through your body is to keep moving.  He also added that most pregnant women don't undergo special bed rest restrictions and still become pregnant...I agreed.  This put the decision to rest for us.

Did I do the Pomegranate Juice and Pineapple Core?  Warm socks?  Lukewarm drinks?  What was the post-transfer routine for the TWW? 

This is still hotly debated.  There are women who do these things and get pregnant.  There are women who do these things and don't get pregnant.  To me, that says it's more about the woman, not the rituals the woman completes.  I bought Pom juice and pineapple with the full intent of following the rituals for the simple fact that these things do not hurt your chances to conceive.  Do they help?  I can't say for sure.  There just isn't any medical statistic that shows it works.  Did I do them for five days?  No, I did them for three days.  I don't like Pom juice so it was difficult to choke that down.  I love pineapple but we went to the grocery store and my pineapple was pushed to the back of the fridge and sometimes for this girl, out of sight...out of mind.

I didn't follow the warm socks routine but a few days that my feet were actually cold.  You see I'm in central Florida and cold...well it just doesn't happen much here.  So if my feet felt cold, I put on my fuzzy slippers.  If not, I didn't bother.

How about the lukewarm drinks?  What is the deal with that?  You see, they say an embryo wants to be warm and cozy and if you're drinking cold drinks the blood rushes to your stomach instead of your uterus...and where does Dr. Mark want the blood flowing?  To your lady bits!  I followed this strictly during all three failed IUI's.  For this transfer, I drank what I wanted at whatever temperature I wanted.  Now, for my water, I don't really care for ice cold water.  So I didn't mind pouring my Brita water into a cup with no ice and we keep that on the counter.  But the Pom juice I drank for a few days, that was cold.  The drinks in a restaurant at lunch, they were cold.

What didn't I do post transfer?  

I didn't swim in the pool and y'all...it was HOT!!  I didn't take a bath (but I did shower, don't worry I didn't run around all stinky).  I didn't go out on our boat due to rough waters and a bumpy ride.  I skipped the sweets and the high carb foods.  I didn't do any heavy lifting and I limited what I did carry to about ten pounds.  I skipped all alcohol and drugs (whatttt, no drugs?? Yes y'all, just say no).  Oh and I stayed off the trampoline...OK fine I don't even have a trampoline.  But they say things can causes the embryo to detach from your lady bits and I didn't want that so it was no rough housing or wresting with the nieces and nephews for this girl.

Did I pee on a stick?  Why?  Why not?  How to avoid it?

No, I didn't pee on a stick.  The reason is I wanted to enjoy the PUPO (Pregnant Until Proven Otherwise) status.  They say it takes up to 7 days post transfer for a pregnancy to show up, now if you're peeing on a stick on day 4, 5, and 6 and it's negative, what is going to happen?  You're going to be upset, you're going to think it didn't work, you're going to psyche yourself out of your pregnancy.  I didn't want to feel that way.  So I waited until just before our beta to test and I used a fancy digital test.  How do you avoid it?  DO NOT GO TO THE STORE.  Seriously, the temptation is too great for me so I have to avoid the stores that sell the tests.  Otherwise I'll buy them.  Sure, it was tempting and I wanted to know, but I also didn't want to know so I just went with the safe routine and drove past the store!!

When did we do the beta?        

A beta is a blood test to determine if you're pregnant.  Let me share some quick beta facts before moving on.

HCG is human chorionic gonadotropin which is not fun to say so we call it HCG. It's the hormone we want to see in a pregnancy test.  These levels generally double every 48-72 hours.  Most pregnancies double within 72 hours which is why some doctors wait three days to perform a second beta.  A "normal" HCG is very difficult to determine so they have come up with an average that you can follow.  A lower beta at the beginning can still produce a health baby!  That is an important fact.    

Different clinics perform beta testing on different days.  This is why you see a vast difference in beta numbers.  It is important to consider the number of days past transfer that a beta is completed before you compare your beta to an average or to some number you see on a social media site.  A lot of people thought my beta was extremely high, when it was really just an average number.  That is based on the days past transfer (DPT)

Now, my first beta was completed at 13 days past 5 day transfer (typically seen as 13dp5dt).  We transferred a 5 day embryo.  This makes my beta numbers showing at 18dp5dt.  So I was beta tested at 18dp5dt.  Here is a chart I used to check my HCG levels against the average.  I highlighted my date of beta.  My first beta was 556.  This is right on point with 18dp5dt.


LINK TO WEBSITE!  http://www.advancedfertility.com/earlypre.htm 

So lets do some math!  Oh yay, a math lesson from No Bun!  If you transferred a 5 day embryo and tested on day 9, you're looking for the lowest number on this chart which is 14.  Your beta should be between 17 and 119 with an average of about 48.  Now, imagine you're comparing that to mine...but we tested on different days...you see how this can look?  Yea, you don't want to compare betas unless you know exactly when the transfer was completed and what day they tested.

THIS IS IMPORTANT!  Beta numbers are compared all the time between TTC Sisters and I cannot emphasize enough how important it is to check the days before you go comparing side by side notes with your friend!

When will I change my name from "nobunintheoven" and what will it be?

HA!  This was a popular question and comment on my Instagram account.  I am currently "nobunintheoven".  I started my Instagram in October of last year and everyone knows me as "nobun".  Part of me wants to change my name, but part of me ties that to my identity.  It's who I am...it's what I'm known as.  I can't say for sure that I will or won't change my Instagram name.  For now, I'll remain "nobun" and if I decide to change that, I will surely make it known!

What will it be?  I've toyed with a few names, lilbunintheoven, mammasgotabunintheoven, mrsbunintheoven, ladybunintheoven, bunintheoven and even mammabun.  I just don't know, the possibilities can be endless when you build your name around an oven!  dontovercookthebunintheoven seems a bit long tho...so I won't do that one!

EDITED TO ADD....SYMPTOMS!!!  What about symptoms while waiting for beta?  

Oh my heck, thanks the gorgeous Ari who reminded me I missed the all important symptoms during the TWW!  I really only had ONE SYMPTOM which was sore bewbies.  Y'all they hurt all over.  Now I've experienced soreness before my cycle began but this was different.  This was soreness all around, not just the sides like my usual cycle.  This was not soreness from grabbing them to check if they were sore (yes we are ALL guilty of this).  This was...it hurt to sit in a bra, I needed bra extenders kind of sore.  This was different than all my prior IUI's.  And this was really the only symptom that I've noticed even to this day *currently week 5*

So I'm certainly not discounting the people who have a vast array of symptoms during the TWW...it just didn't happen for me.  So keep in mind, a symptom, or lack of symptoms is not a good indicator of whether it worked!  Thanks again Ari for the reminder!

Do you have a question about my transfer that I didn't cover?  Do you know someone who could benefit from this information?  SHARE it on Pinterest or Facebook or just email the link to someone you know!  I think this is important information to share!  Thanks so much for following along on my journey.  I'll be adding a new Page to this blog called Our Pregnancy Journey.  I'll be documenting our progress, how it goes and photos.  As always, I'll be on Instagram to share a kind word or a funny photo of the journey along the way.

Thanks for reading, thanks for putting up with me and thanks for being a part of our journey to baby bun!

Monday, June 6, 2016

First Beta Results!

The Results are IN!  Our first beta came in at 559.6 confirming we are PREGNANT!!!!

OH.
MY.
HECK.
Y'ALL!!!!

What an answered prayer!!  I have had friends and family lifting us up in prayer since we started this journey.  I know what Hannah felt when she declared in 1 Samuel 1:27 
Now, these results are great on their own, but we return Wednesday for our second beta which will determine if this baby is growing as it should.  We are looking for the number to double on Wednesday.  A beta should double every 48-72 hours so Wednesday's beta should be around 1120.

Y'all this is a season of waiting and we've jumped out of one waiting pool into another.  There are no guarantees until we delivery a healthy baby and that is positively NERVE WRACKING!

I wish it were simple enough that we get pregnant and move on, but it's not that simple.  We continue to pray for our little bun and our family and ask that you too, continue to keep us in your prayers.